The 19th theory

What the Heart Learns at Nineteen

The 19th theory is not a scientifically proven theory rather, it was curated by social media and proven by experiences shared there too. i saw all these on TikTok and decided to read more about it.

It states that at the age of 19, you meet someone and think this person is the one. You center your whole life around them, but the relationship doesn’t end well.
It’s something catastrophic, something that brings more lessons than blessings. Something that leaves you aching, swearing to never love again. It’s that relationship that you never forget about, despite letting go after so much time.

In the 19th theory, you’re supposed to learn lessons about yourself, about people, and about growth.

So let me tell you about my 19th theory.

I wasn’t 19 when I first met them. I was 18 at first, but somewhere in between I had my 19th birthday.
Young, naïve, and gullible, I must say. Little did I know I was about to learn one of the biggest lessons of my life.

It took 10 days to start crying.

It took 15 days for the first fight.

It took 27 days to say, “I love you.”

Everything happened too fast, and before I knew it, a month had passed, and I was saying yes, yes to a life I was unfamiliar with, yes to everything that was supposed to come with it.

I was head over heels. Nothing around me mattered as long as it was about this person. I lost myself in loving someone else and convinced myself it was all okay.
I wasn’t okay, but I would never admit that.

My lessons? The lessons I learnt at 19? Well, here they are
1. Never love someone else more than you love yourself.
2. Be patient enough to know yourself before trying to figure someone else out.
3. Never regret what happened; instead, work toward making sure it never happens again.
4. Don’t change yourself for anyone, change for yourself.

The 19th theory doesn’t apply to everyone, but it happens to most.

So to those approaching 19… don’t rush.
Watch yourself. Learn. Grow.
You don’t need all that right now.

If you’re already experiencing your 19th theory, I wish you the best. I hope you choose your sanity over something that may break you. i hope your soul mate is who you end with and not another. i hope your story is different from ythe ones percieved.

And if you’ve already experienced yours, cheers to us. We made it. Now it’s time to do better than before.

This isn’t the end. There’s more ahead than we can see.

And I hope that someday, when another comes knocking, we’ll be brave enough to open the door and let them in without hesitation.

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